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Post by KID on Apr 16, 2008 19:54:54 GMT -5
Im kinda boring this month since im on holiday. So i read a lot of forum,article etc from net. I found something that make me confuse. Its about love. It s not really i dont know what love it but im confuse whats the different between loving your family, loving your friend and loving your girlfriend or boyfriend? Im notice that most people love to share every problem and feeling with their girlfriend or boyfriend more than their family and friend. Why is that?
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Post by Kazuha on Apr 17, 2008 8:18:09 GMT -5
Hm, I think it's hard to describe the love between men and women.... you just need the experience, than you understand ^^ But one main difference for me, is that you have the deep feeling of missing, when your girlfriend or boyfriend isn't around and you're really happy, when you see him/her then ^^° In Germany we say "Butterflies in the stomach" XD in english it sound very weird XDDD And of course there's a physical closeness, which you wouldn't have with your mother (I hope o.O)
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Post by KID on Apr 17, 2008 19:37:35 GMT -5
I dont have any experience ^^! Thanks for your answer but it still ordinary answer. Need someone to explain more about it.
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Post by child on Apr 18, 2008 14:51:59 GMT -5
me knows ;D
you need DR Child ehem ehem
when you talk about love its is not only four letters but it is the most difficult question to mankind
Let us make it simple, so other kids would understand
Love is a number of complicated emotions and experiences, you can love a person or a car or a cat, so there is many sorts of love.
Mother love (or parents love) is inborn emotion that they have towards you since you were born or maybe sometimes before you were born, no matter what person you are
Brothers and sister love are different kind of love because when you love your brother or your sister you don’t see the gender they are or their position in the society
Normal friends love is also different because as a human we have feelings toward each other, also that love might turn to hatred sometimes, under some situations.
though the love you mean (boy friend and girl friend ) is kind of chemical operation happens in the brain drives to sexual attraction and effects on the behaviors, this kind of love might live for 3 or 4 years , and the rest is familiarization with that soul mate
about your question why do we feel comfortable to talk with our (girl or boy friend ) that’s because this chemical operation usually happens toward specific person who is at similar age, hobbies , title … etc … so , its naturally that you will be comfortable to talk to someone who understands what you feel in your age especially if you was a teenager
I hope that clears it out
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Post by KID on Apr 19, 2008 1:23:53 GMT -5
Nice explanation Dr Child XD But I still need others explanation and opinion. This topic kinda interesting. ^^
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Post by Misztina on Apr 19, 2008 2:33:32 GMT -5
Hm... cute question. XD
Lucky me, in our language there are 2 words for love.
One is the "szerelem", which refers to the feeling we feel for our boy/girlfriend. The other is called "szeretet" which refers to all the other types of love.
So, as far as I experienced and seen things so far "szerelem" is a passionate feeling, full of desires, full of selfishness (I wanna be with you non-stop etc.), full of exagerated, but fantastic feelings. In my opinion, "szeretet" is different, because you care more about the other, your feelings are clearer. If you combine "szerelem" with "szeretet" that would make a really good relationship with your boy/girlfriend.
Why people tend to share more thoughts & feelings with the person you are in love is probably that person is, somehow your other half, your part. There is a legend that once our souls were one, but somehow every soul split into two and now they are looking for eachother. So "szerelem" can be a "searching for yourself" in a way too.
Or not. XD;
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Post by Raven on Apr 19, 2008 3:07:48 GMT -5
your love depends on the person. question yourself why would you trust that person so you can love him/her. each one of us has secrets. and each secret has results either positive or negative. but who to tell is what's important to reach the goals you want.[/b][/i][/color]
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Post by child on Apr 19, 2008 3:21:55 GMT -5
There is a legend that once our souls were one, but somehow every soul split into two and now they are looking for eachother. So "szerelem" can be a "searching for yourself" in a way too. oh, me now see thats why me is no looking for soul mate because my soul didnt spilt up ;D , thanks god XD Kid : any time , my clinic is opened 24 hour ;D
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Post by Kazuha on Apr 19, 2008 3:51:10 GMT -5
Aww what Miszi said was so nice ^^ But unfortunately it's so hard to find that one person :/ I can't understand how it worked, that people living in 1900 or so, married with the age of 16 and then stayed together their whole life... that's impossible by now. I only know one family among my friends, which is still intact. Parents are still married and happy, though the husband betrayed the wife last year :/ they're happy again. I can't imagine how that works. How is it possible to share 20 or 30 years with one and the same person!? I think it's hard if there isn't a strong friendship behind love...
oh, and we have different words for love. It's "lieb haben" if you feel that you like someone/-thing and if you really have the deep feeling of love, then it's "Liebe"
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Post by KID on Apr 19, 2008 5:04:00 GMT -5
child : Thanks for your clinic ^^ Wow, to much abra-kadabra word XD Make my brain spining around. Misztina: Please explain (I not really understand and wanna understand) ^^! *A! KAZU*: You seem have a lot of experience. Mind to share with us? XD Raven: Nice poem
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Post by Tive on Apr 21, 2008 16:14:35 GMT -5
Hmmm... Looking "love" up at Wikipedia will net you a nice article on what love means in different cultures, nationalities & religions.
Loving your family is just different from loving your friends and that's also different than loving your boyfriend / girlfriend; probably because the relationship is different; you choose your friends, but not your family; your parents ( hopefully ) raised you and cared for you since birth, and a romantic partner is more than just a friend. I think people are more into sharing things with their romantic partners because that helps the relationship grow closer (ideally) ...
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Post by Kentaru on Apr 21, 2008 16:52:12 GMT -5
You know what a family is, so instead I will try to explain the difference between brief flings and the kind of love that lasts. I've never cared much for chemical descriptions of what happens when you fall in love. Those descriptions are too mechanical and they fail to do the process justice.
In the immortal words of Antoine de Saint-Exupéry who described love best: "Aimer, ce n'est pas se regarder l'un l'autre, c'est regarder ensemble dans la même direction." (my translation: "To love isn't to gaze in each other's eyes, it's to look together in the same direction.")
In recap, you may feel brief, mutual sexual attraction but it will most likely remain just that unless you share a common goal in life (can't stress this enough). The most perfect couples I've had the privilege to meet shared that.
The reason people rarely stay together anymore is that divorce is no longer taboo and that people tend to want everything "right now". That's the most regrettable side-effect of the consumer oriented society that we live in.
Well, that's not how life-long love works: you actually have to work -hard- to make a relationship work. In other words, you don't get the "happily ever after" before you've been through the trials - but in real life they keep appearing every day(!). Therefore, it is next to impossible to do that if you don't share that goal - a vision if you will.
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Post by Alinne on Nov 10, 2008 6:14:07 GMT -5
Unexplainable. Tiring. Joyful. Sad. Lol. But it's really a wonderful experience to have. Good luck. XD
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Post by alrochan on Feb 7, 2009 4:30:52 GMT -5
Well, that's quite a long explanation XD I don't understand either... I mean, between a boy and a girl.... who knows someday the boy will betray or love the girl less? I'm a bit scared because of that...
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